Oya's Newsletter: "Roots & Wings"

June 2004: Volume 1, Issue 3. 

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Written & Published by Philippa Kennealy, MD, MPH

Contents

Welcome Note
Oya News
Feature Article: Enjoy Winning
On Track
Book review of the Month

Welcome Note:

Hello all, and welcome to my new subscribers. I do hope you enjoy hearing from me once a month. For prior newsletters, please visit my newsletter archive.

Oya News:

May was a productive month! It ushered in new clients and the opportunity to be a keynote speaker at two hospitals on the East coast, in celebration of Nurses Week. It felt wonderful to remind nurses how valuable they are to our society and what a fine service they provide.

In June, I will be giving a workshop to Family Practice residents in Texas on the subjects of thriving by making good career choices and as upcoming leaders.

With a coaching colleague I respect and enjoy, I will be giving our first two-part workshop titled “Thriving in Practice – How to please patients and banish burnout” to a physician group in Santa Monica.

On June 19th, I will be the keynote speaker at a conference in Los Angeles entitled Moms Making Money. Please sign up and attend if you are available and interested.

All these experiences should be fun!

Feature Article: Enjoy Winning - How to Reward Your Successes

“Gooooooaaaal!”

The TV almost vibrates with the rousing cheer of the soccer commentator on the Spanish channel as the ball skids past the goalie into the net. Who doesn’t respond with a tingle to such a roar from the crowd?

Wouldn’t it be marvelous to have someone yell with the same admiration as you scored one of your significant goals? A celebration of the crowning of all your effort. You could jig and grin and slap your chest with glee. Or just smile privately and glow inside.

Once you’ve kicked a winner, however big or small, you want more. Success is addictive. It brings its own challenges, as many a celebrity knows, but it does encourage you to keep trying.

One of the secrets of managing each challenge is to align your vision of success with your deepest values - those things that you hold dear. Your values serve as goal posts, defining the boundaries between which you must score, in order to accomplish your aim and experience the internal reward.

In the book I will be reviewing below, the author clarifies what a true goal is. Those chores that keep piling up, that office you need to tidy and organize, or the project you have to complete by the end of the month at work - all will bring you relief once achieved. These are tasks, not goals.

Achieving your true goals brings you more than relief; it brings you joy and a deep sense of accomplishment. It is a cause for celebration.

To play the game well:

• Decide what you want to get done.
• Select one goal that you believe will bring you satisfaction when it is realized.
• Plan the steps to getting there – make them small enough to be able to complete each day or week.
• Make sure you remember to reward yourself as you reach the small milestones you set for yourself. It’s as much about having fun as it is about hard work!!

Share your goal with someone who encourages and believes in you. A buddy, a spouse, a child, a teacher, a coach. The triumph will be sweeter when there is someone who will toot the horn that you might be too reserved or self-effacing to sound!

On Track: Goal-Setting Part 3

Your goal is important to you and you are ready to tackle it, so how confident are you about succeeding?

The third attribute to be aware of in goal setting is your Confidence. How many times previously have you attempted this goal without much success? How optimistic are you about your effort? What skills or abilities will it take to achieve your goal?

The approach is:

• Picture your goal
• Ask yourself: “How confident am I that I will find a way to succeed?”
• Score yourself for 1 to 10, 1 being “I am not at all confident” and 10 is “I truly believe I will succeed”

If you score less than 7, you need a confidence booster.
Doing is the best way to enhance your confidence – it circumvents the paralysis that accompanies a lack of assurance, and it makes you to practice. I bet you couldn’t play the piano or draw as a kid without practicing regularly!

• Take classes or courses on-line or in person, or read books to learn or build up the necessary skills
• Practice daily or weekly – regularity is the key
• Ask people who have succeeded for tips or tricks that served them. Modify the information to match your own style or needs.
• Get support and encouragement – a friend, a teacher, a mentor, a coach, an expert
• Ask for constructive feedback to help you improve

Armed with your self-assessment of importance, readiness and confidence, you now have a few tools to estimate your likelihood of success in achieving the goals you are contemplating.

Next month, I will write about setting up your personal “Board of Directors”.


Book of The Month

I was intrigued enough by the title The Energy of Money to request the book from my local library. When they told me how far down I was on the waiting list, I thought I might be onto something, and purchased it instead. A good buy!

Far from being the New Agey book the subtitle suggests, it is a provocative and practical coaching guide to what the author acknowledges is an uncomfortable subject for most of us. After sharing her own instructive story of humiliation in money-handling, she uses her twelve Principles to lead the reader through a hero’s journey towards financial and personal fulfillment. She ends by reminding the reader “money’s true purpose is to serve the larger purpose of your life”.

Have an enjoyable month!

Philippa Kennealy MD MPH
The Vision Realization Process 
President, Oya Consulting

Dr. Philippa Kennealy is an Executive and Personal Coach, dedicated to your professional and personal success and fulfillment. To schedule an initial FR*EE consultation, to learn more, or to inquire about having her speak to your group or organization, contact her at:
pkennealy@oyaconsulting.com or click here.

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